I spent nearly 42 weeks of 2012 pregnant with Little Man (yes 42!!) and over those months was given hoards of advice from fellow Mums. I think there were still a few things left out, here is what I would say to my pregnant self knowing what I know now.
To my pregnant self,
Wow, you’re pregnant. So now it’s really time to grow up and learn how to look after that little human happily living inside your tummy. It’s so daunting I know but you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t find it at least a little scary. I think there are a few things you should know about having a newborn so here goes.
Firstly I want to tell you to stop buying those newborn sized outfits, I know they’re cute but I promise you you won’t use them. Babygro’s will be your go-to outfits of choice. For a start they are easy to get on and off and you will probably be taking them off at least 3 times a day. Secondly, your little bundle of joy will be much more comfy spending the entire day in his onesie and after all if you can’t spend all day in a onesie when you’re a few weeks old when can you?!
Next, stop saying you will never use dummies. This is going to make you look extremely silly when one night you dig deep in the cupboard with all the baby stuff in, grap a dummy (the one you bought ‘just incase but I’ll never use it’) and stick it in baby’s mouth.You will breath a sigh of relief that you have found something to sooth him and it’s ok to use them. A little glimpse into the future for you, he’ll only use them for a few months and sack them off for his thumb anyway!
Now this one is important – login to your online shopping now and order your washing powder, now triple the amount and you should be set for the amount of washing you are about to start doing. Oh, do the same for nappies and wipes. What the hell, throw a couple more baby gros in there too, you’ll use them!
Something else that is really important; all the baby books, forums and Mums will probably tell you that you’ll get to know what your baby’s cries mean. You’ll know the hungry cry, the change my nappy cry, the pain cry, etc. Actually, you probably won’t. Not for a while anyway and you’ll do what most other Mums actually do and work your way through the list of what may be wrong and hope you hit the jackpot. This is ok, it doesn’t mean you haven’t bonded with your baby and it doesn’t mean you’re not as good as those other Mums. You are just getting to know your baby and it takes a while to recognise all the different sounds he makes especially when you are sleep deprived and your brain isn’t working as fast as it used to.
Oh and now the biggy – showers. It’s ok if you don’t make it to the shower everyday in the first few weeks. I know you like to wash your hair everday and blow dry it, not forgetting the full face of make up. Oh and I know you’ve told everyone that you won’t be in your pjs all day. But sometimes you will and somedays you will have tried to get in the shower at least 3 or 4 times but are interrupted by that cry that you’re not sure what it means. Don’t worry, at some point someone will come visiting and you can hand baby over to them and go and have a shower. There still might not be time to blow dry your hair though. Sorry.
And finally, try not to let it overwhelm you. I know its tough sometimes but you will do a grand job and I promise all those things you do or don’t do and you worry that they will affect his weight, his growth, his teeth, his health, his childhood…it’s ok, he’s turned into a fab toddler and is happily playing as I write this.
You did good.
Now sit down, read a book, watch a film, drink a hot drink and don’t wish your pregnancy away. It will all be changing very soon. Enjoy your pregnancy and enjoy your newborn.