‘You’re having a big baby’
The words ‘you’re having a big baby’ were words I heard from midwives too often in my pregnancy with Little Man. These words were often followed by ‘or it could all be water so don’t worry’. Then from others (because my bump was so big): ‘you sure there aren’t twins in there?’ and ‘you look like you’re about to pop, are you sure you’re only 30 weeks?’ Well that all scared the living hell out of me. I was a nervous first time mum, pregnant it seemed with this monster baby.
So, was he big? You’re damn right he was, 10lb 6oz to be precise. Not so little Little Man was 13 days late and born by emergency caesarean. I won’t go into details as I don’t want to put the hebbie jebbies up mums to be; I was induced and having contractions on and off for 2 days until things got too tiring for the little man and he shouted from his little home in my tummy ‘can you please get me out!!’ and there he was 10 minutes in the operating theatre and there was my very long skinny baby boy.
The comments didn’t stop there, once he was born his adorable little face didn’t often get the comments nor did his beautiful brown eyes. Instead we got ‘isn’t he big for his age?’ or ‘oh bless him, he’s going to be a bruiser when he grows up’.
Now my 2 year old Little Man is tall and skinny, his trousers literally never stay up! The comments seem to have finally stopped.
My whole point of writing about this is because I know pregnant women can be very sensitive to comments like the ones I’ve mentioned and also comments that are opposite to these; comments on small bumps or tiny babies. I think it is so important to know that no pregnancy is the same and no baby is the same and no pregnant woman wants to be scared witless at the prospect of giving birth to a giant baby or the thought that her bump isn’t the right size for how many weeks she is. Give mums to be encouragement, love and above all respect. Just because they are pregnant does not make them public property.
All bumps are beautiful and the right sized home for the babies inside them. And for the record, my big baby drank alot of milk and slept well quite early, I didn’t feel that he was as delicate as some newborns and my my is he going to be a good looking lad when he’s older.
Share the love mummy’s and embrace the bumps, whatever shape or size!!