5 Ways to Get Through Having a Husband that Works Away


My husband G works away every week from Monday to Thursday evening. He has always done this and when we were a childless couple I used to love it! I mean who wouldn’t want the best of both worlds. I would have a couple of evenings out visiting friends and then one evening in in my pjs watching what I wanted to watch on Tv. 20150525_161206

Then Little Man came along and things changed. Suddenly the freedom of being able to go out in the evening was taken away and once the night feeding was finished and a long evening stretched ahead of me alone things really started to take their toll. I was lonely I realised and I really missed G. A couple of years down the line and I think I have it all a bit more sussed, I still miss G and I still miss someone to talk to in the evenings about how my day with Little Man has been or a terrible day at work but still I can honestly say I don’t dread the time on my own any more. 3 or 4 nights is my limit though, those Mummys doing it on their own or who have partners that work overseas, I salute you. I know it can sometimes be a hard old slog. So for anyone who is in the same position as me or is about to begin it then here are my top 5 tips for getting through the week when your partner is away.

Prepare – This is so important for me. The beginning part of our week I am at home with Little Man, my working week starts on Wednesday so I find that preparing for those 2 days really helps. When you know there is no one coming home for you to hand the toddler over so you can get on with your jobs can be a bit overwhelming when you’re trying to get it done with a toddler under your feet so I try and get everything done at the weekend. Admittedly I have the evenings butthis new found blogging hobby I seem to have taken on seems to be taking up all of my evening times! If everything is done I can spend the time with Little Man without worrying when I am going to get everything else done.

Routine – this is my saviour. I am a lover of routine anyway but I think without a routine I would struggle especially on work days. Work one out that works for you and your family and it will make the week go much smoother. For example, we have our Mondays and Tuesday routines which are a bit more chilled but when Wednesday hits I am like Little Man’s Sergeant Major to make sure we get out of the door in time for nursery drop off and work.

Skype – or any other video calling thing. A good old fashioned phone call used to do the trick before Little Man but now I find that Skyping is good for all 3 of us. Little Man and G get to have a nice chat in the evening – I say chat it usually entails Little Man bringing every toy he owns to show G on the screen. But it’s great for us as a couple too, there’s something much nicer speaking to his face than over the phone. He may not agree because his role is often just to sit and nod whilst I go through all my trials and tribulations of the day.

Count the sleeps – Now Little Man is getting older he is starting to understand that Daddy isn’t always here. We often worried about this and whether he would miss G so we have started counting the sleeps. Every night at bedtime, I tell Little Man how many sleeps it is until Daddy comes home and this seems to settle any uneasiness he has about Daddy being away.

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Socialise – This is so important. I don’t even mean socialising in the evening as this can be hard especially when your friends have their own kids. I do see people in the evenings but this is dependant on if they can come to me while Little Man sleeps. However, I find as long as I socialise in the day the evenings don’t feel so bad and I relish the time on my own a bit more. It can be a long old day for both me and Little Man if all we have seen is each other so we try and see someone on Mondays and Tuesdays and obviously on Wednesdays and Thursdays we see our nursery and work friends.

So there we go, a few tips from me. I hope they are useful to anyone who is in a similar position to me. I would love to hear any more too.

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14 Comments

  • You Baby Me Mummy
    18/02/2015 at 21:37

    Fab tips huni! I hate it when hubby goes away with work. Not sure how you cope! Thanks for linking up to #Thelist x

    • Mummy in Training
      19/02/2015 at 11:22

      Thank you. It has got easier over the months thankfully. Thanks for commenting.

  • Zena's Suitcase
    01/06/2015 at 21:43

    I think you really need a strategy in situations like this. I think these tips will really help other Mum’s in the same boat. Thanks for linking up with #myfavouritepost
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    • Mummy in Training
      02/06/2015 at 09:32

      Thank you 🙂

  • Sabrina (The Mummy Stylist)
    02/06/2015 at 10:55

    Oh gosh, this sounds hard, my husband is away every now and then, and luckily I live near my parent’s so usually just stay over there if I’m alone. But to do this every week, I tip my hat of to you – well done! You’ve got a great few tips here, I think you are right, making sure you see people, routine and having the countdown will keep you sane! #twinklytuesday
    Sabrina xx
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    • Mummy in Training
      02/06/2015 at 13:55

      Thanks for a lovely comment hun xx

  • Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk)
    02/06/2015 at 14:06

    My husband works 2 jobs as well so he would only be home few hours. Its so hard. But we need this financially. He works 2 nights a week now so we have more of him which is a big help. Your tips are great. Thanks for sharing. #TwinklyTuesday
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    • Mummy in Training
      03/06/2015 at 18:54

      Thank you, it can be touch can’t it xx

  • Helen Gandy
    02/06/2015 at 16:43

    Ahh I love the little sign, great idea! I bet it must be hard for you.

    Helen – #twinklytuesday
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    • Mummy in Training
      03/06/2015 at 18:53

      Thank you, it’s all I’m used to really so it is okay most of the time 🙂 xx

  • Mummy Fever
    02/06/2015 at 23:45

    We are big fans of counting sleeps 🙂 #TwinklyTuesday
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    • Mummy in Training
      03/06/2015 at 18:52

      Aw glad to hear it x

  • Sadia
    03/06/2015 at 22:27

    “Counting the sleeps” is such a great way to approach it with children before they can understand calendars. I was married to a soldier, so his absences were usually for 15 months. I can see ways in which having a weekly routine would be easier, but the longer absences allowed me to establish my own routines and ways of doing things. The transition times were always the hardest for us… in large part because, despite my best efforts, the children would forget who this man was.

    Thanks for linking with #TwinklyTuesday.
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    • Mummy in Training
      04/06/2015 at 18:51

      Wow, yes I can’t imagine doing 15 months at a time!! xx

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