To The People Who Stared At Us Today
I caught you all looking at me and my little boy today in the shop. I know you think I didn’t see your disapproving looks or hear your little comments to your friend. I’d like to clear a couple of things up. First of all maybe I should tell you why my toddler was having a tantrum. It was because I wouldn’t let him run around on his own flying his toy plane. Now, correct me if I’m wrong but if you had seen a toddler running around on his own and getting in your way, you probably wouldn’t think much of my parenting skills either. I was trying to teach him what was and wasn’t acceptable behaviour in a shop and why. Surely that should give me parenting brownie points not excessive tuts behind my back. If your parents hadn’t taught you this maybe you would have been the one pretending to be a plane today!
All us Mums are trying to do is teach our toddlers right and wrong. We didn’t go out this morning with the intention of disturbing you. We didn’t scan the aisles when we arrived and decide that you would be a good person to annoy.
I’m not looking for sympathy but you should probably know I suffer from anxiety and it took me a long time to be confident enough to bring my little man to the shops on my own. In fact one of the things that caused it was people staring when I couldn’t sooth my newborn in his pram – he hated that pram! All I want to ask of you is you just walk past and ignore us. I know me and a lot of other Mums would be super grateful if you did. We feel bad enough about our child sitting on the floor screaming and shouting as it is. I guess what I am trying to say is you don’t know the background of a situation so don’t judge it or at least silently judge it (lets be honest, we all do that)! We were all toddlers once and I’d like to bet that some of you have had your own kids and have probably been where I was today.
To end on a positive note, I would like to thank the Mums who gave me knowing, sympathetic smiles. I’ll take those looks in bucketloads.
I’m off to cuddle my little man now, we’ll try again tomorrow.
Have a lovely day,