To The People Who Stared At Us Today

To the people who stared at us todayTo the people that stared at us today when my toddler was having a tantrum,

I caught you all looking at me and my little boy today in the shop. I know you think I didn’t see your disapproving looks or hear your little comments to your friend. I’d like to clear a couple of things up. First of all maybe I should tell you why my toddler was having a tantrum. It was because I wouldn’t let him run around on his own flying his toy plane. Now, correct me if I’m wrong but if you had seen a toddler running around on his own and getting in your way, you probably wouldn’t think much of my parenting skills either. I was trying to teach him what was and wasn’t acceptable behaviour in a shop and why. Surely that should give me parenting brownie points not excessive tuts behind my back. If your parents hadn’t taught you this maybe you would have been the one pretending to be a plane today!

All us Mums are trying to do is teach our toddlers right and wrong. We didn’t go out this morning with the intention of disturbing you. We didn’t scan the aisles when we arrived and decide that you would be a good person to annoy.IMG-20141202-WA0008

I’m not looking for sympathy but you should probably know I suffer from anxiety and it took me a long time to be confident enough to bring my little man to the shops on my own. In fact one of the things that caused it was people staring when I couldn’t sooth my newborn in his pram – he hated that pram! All I want to ask of you is you just walk past and ignore us. I know me and a lot of other Mums would be super grateful if you did. We feel bad enough about our child sitting on the floor screaming and shouting as it is. I guess what I am trying to say is you don’t know the background of a situation so don’t judge it or at least silently judge it (lets be honest, we all do that)! We were all toddlers once and I’d like to bet that some of you have had your own kids and have probably been where I was today.

To end on a positive note, I would like to thank the Mums who gave me knowing, sympathetic smiles. I’ll take those looks in bucketloads.

I’m off to cuddle my little man now, we’ll try again tomorrow.

Have a lovely day,


Mami 2 Five

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  • Sarah
    14/03/2015 at 16:20

    I love this! And i hate people who stare!

    I was raised with the understanding that staring was rude. So its baffling to me when people continue to do so. I’m at a point where if people stare, I make polite eye contact (if that’s a thing) and then they usually move on.
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    • Mummy in Training
      14/03/2015 at 19:28

      YES! Me too, I was always taught it was rude to stare too but some people can’t help themselves I guess!! Thanks for commenting.

  • rachel
    03/05/2015 at 13:37

    I totally agree with you, when Miss M is having a strop the one thing I don’t need is people staring! I tend not to look now and concentrate on what i’m doing. I do find myself explaining to Miss M out loud for all to hear, why I said no in the first place, like I’m also explaining to the audience, why she is having a strop. I should not have to do it but I do because I feel as though I can justify her noise.

    • Mummy in Training
      03/05/2015 at 19:06

      Yes I do that too. It’s horrible you have to feel that way. Hugs xx

  • Lukeosaurus And Me
    03/05/2015 at 15:45

    Lovely post, well said. I suffer from anxiety and I hate going out with Luke alone sometimes, I am always worried that people are judging me and if he has a full meltdown, we always get stares. I don’t understand it and it’s not at all helpful! Ray xx #SundayStars
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  • Jeremy@thirstydaddy
    03/05/2015 at 15:55

    Anybody with kids has long since stopped judging other parents in public. screw e’m
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    • Mummy in Training
      03/05/2015 at 19:05

      Thank you 🙂 xx

  • Kirsten Toyne
    03/05/2015 at 20:47

    I felt for you and I laughed whilst reading your post. Not at you but at the memory of being in that situation myself. With two boys it has happened plenty of times and it is hard. I developed blinkers where I did not look at anyone else. I knew what I needed to do and couldn’t take on board other peoples feelings. It took a while though to learn to be oblivious. Be proud of yourself for doing what is needed. As mothers our priorities have to be our kids. Well done. #SundayStars

    • Mummy in Training
      04/05/2015 at 08:42

      Thank you. I going to stick the blinkers on 🙂 x

  • Random Musings
    04/05/2015 at 00:54

    I can’t stand this! Anyone who has lived on this planet as an adult must realise that sometimes children have tantrums. Sometimes because they have been told no (the horror!) and sometimes for no better reason than just because they can. No one has a right to judge you. Keep you’re head held high and know you are raising your child to know better. I really couldn’t blame you if you did intentionally seek these people out and let your child annoy them lol. I don’t have any children, but I still always give the mother a smile if I see a child having a meltdown. #SundayStars
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    • Mummy in Training
      04/05/2015 at 08:42

      So nice when someone smiles at you, makes you feel loads better 🙂 xx

  • Mrs H
    11/05/2015 at 00:07

    I am so sorry that you got those disapproving looks. Some people can be so cruel. All children get upset and throw tantrums. They are learning to deal with their emotions and it is natural. Isn’t doesn’t make us bad mums because our children sometimes do this in public. But it is people like the ladies that you mentioned who make us feel like bad parents. I am glad that you got some reassuring looks from some kind souls. If it makes you feel any better. I once got tutted and disapproving looks for falling off the bus with Little Miss H in her buggy. Little Miss was fine but I really badly hurt myself trying to protect her. The horrible looks did not help the situation. In fact, they made me want to run away in tears. Some people! Thanks for linking up to #SundaysStars. Hugs Mrs H xxxx
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    • Mummy in Training
      11/05/2015 at 08:42

      Oh goodness, why would people even give you filthy looks in that position?!? Some people are so strange. Thanks lovely x


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I’m Rachel, a 30 something Mum to 6 year old Little Man & 2 year old twin girls (one with us & one in the sky).

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