Guest Post – Why Having A Second Baby Is Easier by Awesome Austerity

Today I have a guest post from the wonderful Morna at Awesome Austerity. She has written a great post about how life really is with a second child. The decision whether to have a second child is something that plays on my mind a lot so this a great post for me personally to read and to share with you too. So here is Morna with more.


Hi Everyone,

I’m Morna from Awesome Austerity.  When Rachel and I discussed me posting on her lovely blog I wanted to find a topic which would fit in well with some of the themes she has explored so far.  I really enjoyed reading her posts outlining her fear of postnatal anxiety with a second child and her letter to her pregnant self.  I thought about how much easier I had found having a second baby and I came up with list of reasons why it is so much less difficult second time around.

1. Because having a baby is easy

Not at first of course.  It was awful at first, the hardest thing I’ve ever done, the most stressful and disturbing and life altering thing that could ever have happened to me.  But it won’t be like that again.  Having a baby is like exercising…….bear with me, this analogy will work.  I took up running a few years ago.  At first I couldn’t run for more than 20 minutes at a time.  But I got better.  Within a few months I was able to run 10km easily without stopping.  Within a year I could run 10 miles. Within three I could do it whilst pushing a buggy – you see what I’ve done there?

Compared to having a toddler having a baby is easy. Babies require liquid sustenance and not to lie in their own effluent.  Other than this the level of necessary input is minimal. Yes it’s nice if you can find a bit of time to wave a rattle at them but compared to your toddler who has a list of dietary requirements more complex and discerning than the master chef critics table, a thirst for knowledge to rival that of Jeremy Paxman during the University Challenge final and a desire for sartorial perfection which manifests as an unwillingness to wear anything that doesn’t feature a Disney princess or a superhero a baby is….Childs play.


 2. You are used to sleep deprivation

It’s true you are.  Maybe your toddler sleeps better than they used to but lie-ins following a late night? An afternoon nap? These are little but dim and distant memories.  Yes the new baby probably will give you a few broken nights but don’t worry, you are a finely honed machine, capable of operating on little to no sleep – hurrah!

3. You are a master multi-tasker

You can answer questions regarding the manufacture of bricks, whilst simultaneously cooking a delicious pasta bolognaise, repairing an accidentally demolished Lego tower, painting your fingernails (badly), all the while wondering what is going to happen in Eastenders tonight whilst texting your spouse to tactfully enquire as to why they aren’t yet home. It’s not going to be difficult to change the odd nappy or prepare the occasional feed whilst you are doing these things.

4. You’ve already made the seismic shift

Do you remember how terrifying it was the first time you realised that this little human being was your responsibility?  That it was up to you to meet their every need, that their life was literally in your hands?  It’s exactly the same with your second child, except now you have a proven record.  You have already kept one child alive and hopefully even happy for the last couple of years.  Whilst the love you feel is equally as strong and overwhelming it’s simply not as terrifying as the first time.  You have a job to do and the good news is you have a track record indicating that you are perfectly qualified.

5. You have assembled a kick-ass team

You know who to ask for help.  Be it your mum, your partner or that friend who will come round and hold the colicky baby while you have a shower.  You know where to buy nappies at 4am.  You know what to do when they have a temperature at 10pm on a Sunday evening. You also have an extra helper you haven’t even thought of yet.  I’ll admit at the age of 22 months Helen wasn’t that useful but every so often she would bring me the TV remote when I was marooned on the sofa or fetch more baby wipes when I was in the middle of a poo explosion.  When we were stuck inside on a miserable wet day with not much to do my toddler kept me company.  I’m not sure if it’s considered appropriate to leave your two your old to supervise the baby in their jumperoo whilst you go to the toilet but Helen was certainly up to the job. She still regularly informs me of Sally’s misdemeanours – admittedly often when I am trying to ignore them.


6. You know they won’t break

Sometimes you need to have a shower, or answer the phone, or walk somewhere or drive the car.  Sometimes this will not be what your baby wants you to do.  They will exhibit their displeasure in the only way they know how – by crying.  I couldn’t cope with Helen crying, I would do almost anything to avoid it which resulted in me often not being able to shower, answer the phone, drive my car or walk my dog.  With Sally I didn’t just have myself to think of, I had Helen too, and in order to meet her needs I sometimes had to postpone those of Sally.  We all survived.


7. You already have no life

Sorry but it’s true.  Perhaps you used to have a social life?  You used to go out with friends for a drink or a meal or to the cinema.  Sometimes you even used to do things spontaneously.  Admit it though – that all pretty much stopped as soon as the bump turned into a baby.  The huge shock of realising that your social life has disappeared can only occur once.  In fact you are probably looking forward to another year of maternity leave.  You’ll have an excuse to go to more ante-natal classes, you’ll make new friends and you can hang out with all your other buddies also on maternity leave.  With baby number two their birth will increase your social circle rather than decrease it.

8. Babies are super portable

You really can take them anywhere, they are much more socially acceptable than dogs.  Toddlers are noisy, fidgety and sometimes smelly.  Babies are not that dissimilar to a large turnip really.  You can easily attach them to you and carry on your daily living activities as normal.  I didn’t really understand this with Helen.  With Sally I attended a music festival, the fourth Twilight film, two weddings and several work meetings.  I think that because she was considerably less noisy than Helen I simply assumed nobody could see or hear her.




Your first baby is a voyage into the unknown.  It’s infinitely scary and of course infinitely exciting.  Your second baby is different.  You are different.  You are an established professional parent, you know what you are doing and baby number two will know it too.

Since number two was such a breeze I can’t understand why my husband is being such a stick in the mud over number three!





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  • Eimear
    26/03/2015 at 09:50

    I totally agree with you! I wrote about introducing the toddler to the new baby for my Brilliant Blog Post – we must be thinking along the same lines!! 🙂

    • Mummy in Training
      26/03/2015 at 13:18

      Really glad you enjoyed the post! Its a mind field having a new baby so great to read some posts on it!

    • morna
      27/03/2015 at 22:20

      I need to have a read – anything to help persuade my husband that we could cope with number three!
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  • Natalia
    27/03/2015 at 08:14

    Ha ha, love it!

    • Mummy in Training
      27/03/2015 at 08:53

      Hehe take note 😉

  • Rebecca U
    27/03/2015 at 12:48

    I totally agree. Your life completely changes with your first but as it has already changed, a second just fit into our lives nicely #thelist
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    • Mummy in Training
      27/03/2015 at 14:37

      That’s good to hear. I suppose you are already in the swing of things when number 2 comes along x

  • Baby Isabella
    27/03/2015 at 14:15

    This list made my mummy laugh! A lot of it is true #TheList
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    • Mummy in Training
      27/03/2015 at 14:36

      Hehe! It’s a great post!!

  • EmmaH
    27/03/2015 at 14:47

    So true! The first baby comes along and turns your life upside down, a second baby just comes along and joins the fun!
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    • Mummy in Training
      27/03/2015 at 14:54

      What a lovely way of putting it 🙂

  • Laura's Lovely Blog
    28/03/2015 at 08:59

    In many of these points I totally agree with you. A baby is so much easier than a toddler and you do not what to expect a lot more. The thing that took me totally by surprise with my 2nd was how horrendous the sleep deprivation has been. I think my son lulled me into a false sense of security by being such an amazing sleeper. My daughter on the other hand is awful and there have been nights where I have been up and down for most of the night with her for various reasons, I get her to sleep and then it’s 6 and my son is awake for the day. Sleep when they sleep goes out of the window with your 2nd. But in all other points you’re right, the 1st one is a seismic shift, the 2nd just slots in.

    • Mummy in Training
      28/03/2015 at 19:46

      Thanks for commenting. The sleep thing worries me as my son has been a great sleeper since he was 4 months!

  • Misunderstood Mummy
    29/03/2015 at 08:18

    Love this post! Made me laugh so much, especially the baby – turnip comparison! I’ve only got the one and am pretty adamant that that’s how things will remain, but reading this has definitely assured me that should I ever have another, I will cope! 🙂 xxx
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    • Mummy in Training
      29/03/2015 at 08:22

      Me too, that’s how it has made me feel! xx

  • Mim
    30/03/2015 at 19:31

    I LOVE this post and it couldn’t be better timing! I have baby #2 due in a month and I’ve been starting to feel just a little anxious about how it’s all going to go – this is very funny but very reassuring! Thanks to Morna 🙂 Mim @ #brilliantblogposts.
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    • Mummy in Training
      31/03/2015 at 09:12

      Really glad you enjoyed it, it’s a great post! Good luck with number 2 🙂

  • Hannah Mums' Days
    02/04/2015 at 22:21

    Well, the thought of another has always been a wee bit terrifying for me but this post has filled me with hope…Maybe we will afterall!

    Thanks for linking up xx #TheList
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    • Mummy in Training
      03/04/2015 at 14:31

      Me too, it’s made me think it might be okay if it happens! x


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