Breast or Bottle – The big debate

The good old breast feeding versus bottle feeding debate is rearing it’s head again and without the intention of ranting (although I may!) I thought I would throw my two pennies worth into the mix. It’s all over the Internet and TV again. It’s buzzing round Twitter.

I don’t have any opinions to state about whether breast feeding is better than bottle feeding or whether you should do either one of those things. I don’t feel the need to tell you. I can tell you what happened to me which was I had a 10lb 6oz baby and he was very very hungry. I breast fed for a week. About the 3rd day in while I was in hospital one of the midwives bottle fed Little Man while I was in the shower because she didn’t want me to latch on (excuse the pun) to the idea of bottle feeding as I was struggling with breast feeding him. I carried on when I got home but in the end he was too hungry, I was too sore and we were both upset. After advice from my midwife we swapped to formula. That’s what happened to me.

I don’t feel the need when someone tells me whether they are breast or bottle feeding to tell them whether I disagree or not. They are parents, they are more than capable of making a decision that works for their baby, their family and for themselves. There are many many decisions that we have to make with our newborns; baby led weaning or purees, co-sleeping or sleeping in the cot, dummy or no dummy, the list goes on. But none of these decisions are met with the same media backlash as this debate.

As I said, I don’t have any opinion to share as to what I think about breast or bottle.

What I do want to say is this.

Debates are healthy in our society, we need to see both sides of an argument to work out what the best decision is for us. What I can’t stand is the nastiness and the forced opinions that seem to come with the breast or bottle argument. In the long run whether the lady down the road or the woman at your baby group breastfeeds their baby or not is not our concern, it makes a difference to their family and whatever works works. Social media and the media in general is not there for slanging matches or to make people feel crap for the choices that they make. It is there to broadcast and present peoples opinions in a responsible and respectable way.

There is no need to be nasty.

People are more than entitled to make their own decisions about their child and shouldn’t be made to feel bad about it. We don’t need to make people feel rubbish by using our opinion. If our opinion is going to make people feel good then go ahead and shout it from the rooftops, stick it all over Twitter.

Whether you have breast fed or bottle fed your baby, you have made a decision that is right for you and your child. That is enough.

Now, go and spread some love please! New parents have a hard enough time as it is, lets stand with them rather than questioning their choices.

Have a lovely day.

Ps, head over to Channel Mum to watch some videos about how this sort of thing makes real mums feel. These are the sorts of campaigns we should be getting behind not the type that single people out!

 

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  1. May 28, 2015 / 2:30 pm

    Here,here!I breastfed mine and am of the opinion that as long as they’re fed who gives a stuff which way it’s done.NO-ONE should be made to feel bad for doing their best whichever way they chose to feed their baby x
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    • May 28, 2015 / 2:31 pm

      Thanks hun, I was a little worried about posting this but feel it needed to be said 🙂 xx

  2. May 28, 2015 / 4:03 pm

    Very well said…..It’s the nastiness which comes with these debates which is horrible….As long as a baby is fed does it really matter where the milk comes from!
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  3. May 30, 2015 / 2:47 pm

    Yip I agree with this. Whatever you decide to do is your personal choice and you do it because you feel it is the right decision. No one has the right to judge that or question it.

    Moms can be harsh sometimes.

    • May 30, 2015 / 7:14 pm

      Yes I don’t think people realise how hurtful comments can be xx

  4. May 30, 2015 / 10:49 pm

    I was in a similar situation where breastfeeding just didn’t work out for us. All of my experiences with other mums in baby groups etc have been lovely with no judgement at all. No other mums that I’ve met have cared how I’ve fed my baby. I’m not sure all of the negativity in the media necessarily reflects the attitudes of the majority of women. Supportive posts like this are much more helpful! #WeekendBlogHop
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    • May 31, 2015 / 10:56 am

      Thank you. Yes I think it’s a minority leading the media to be honest xx

  5. May 31, 2015 / 2:37 pm

    Too right! It amazes me how nasty people can get about this subject and I’m sick of reading derogatory comments, as you say singling people out! As long as people are informed and aware of their choices, then their decision is just that, their decision and they shouldn’t be demonised for it! Life is hard enough without people ganging up on others, a little bit of kindness goes a long way 😉
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    • May 31, 2015 / 5:12 pm

      Exactly! Couldn’t have put it better. Who needs nastiness?! xx

  6. June 3, 2015 / 4:14 pm

    Totally and utterly agree! I tried breast feeding and managed for a while with both babies before I felt the need to change or simply couldn’t do it any more for medical reasons. I have other fiends who have breast fed their babies and I have others who chose to start entirely with bottle feeding. All of our children are totally fabulous and in perfect health. It’s free choice at the end of the day – so as long as you’re doing what’s right for you and baby – so flipping what. Great post. Thanks so much for linking it up with #SundayStars this week. Steph xxx
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