Lessons my 20’s have taught me

Lessons my 20s taught me

On August 20th I turn 30. I can’t wait to be honest, I’m really looking forward to heading into my 30s. I started my 20s at University in Aberwystyth, got a job and moved to Winchester after graduating and lived there for a bit. Then I moved back to good old Brum and in with a stinky boy, got married, bought a house, had a baby and now we are here. 2015 and preparing for my 30s. So much happened in my 20s, so many changes and a lot of growing up and changing. There are so many life lessons to be learnt in your 20s and I thought I would share a few of the lessons I have learnt in my 20s.

  • Don’t worry too much about what people think – this is easier said than done but really when you think about it, no one else is living your life so as long as the choices that you make are right for you who cares?!
  • Dress for your shape – I am a curvy girl; I always have had big hips and a big bum. You only have to look at the ladies in my family to see it is in my genes. In my early 20s I tried to keep up with the fashions even if they didn’t suit me. Not a good idea. It is much better to dress in things that suit the shape you are, when I started doing this it made me a lot more confident about how I looked.

20 year old me!

  • Mistakes are worth making – Believe me, I know this for a fact. I have made my fair share of mistakes over the last 10 years. Would I change them? Never. Your mistakes make you who you are and sometimes you have to fall on your face to realise it wasn’t a good idea to wear those high heels!
  • Appreciate the little things – They are the most important things usually.
23 with a big fringe!!

23 with a big fringe!!

  • Relationships take work – I’m not just talking about with your other half but also with friends. You have to put the effort in. Things aren’t always easy but it doesn’t mean they are worth giving up on.
  • Good friends are rare – Appreciate the ones you have. They are very special.

25 visiting my old uni town.

  • There is no fairytale – I know, I know I’m a cynic. I love the idea of the Disney Princess life as much as the next girl but things happen, things change and things are sometimes tough. Make your own type of fairytale.
  • I am too lazy to have blonde hair – I loved my blonde days but I was too lazy to keep getting my roots done and I actually prefer my natural colour now anyway.322054_10150914104480594_1934487653_o
  • Drama is overrated – Oh I loved the drama of life in my early 20’s, every argument was like the world was ending. Not now, uneventful is what I aim for now.
  • Change is good – I don’t like change, never have but actually now I can see it is good. Change is healthy and new things are fun.


  • Nights out aren’t worth the hangover – my uni days were spent in hangover city but not now there is a child in my house who will wake up at 5am whether I have had a bottle of wine or not. It’s just not worth it any more.

So there we go. A few life lessons I have learnt whilst I was in my 20s. I am looking forward to what my 30s are going to teach me. Have you learnt anything in your 20s?


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  • Alina @eclecticalu blogspot
    10/07/2015 at 14:33

    It’s great to get older. Funny how that sounds weird but it really is. Media constantly bombards us with how ideal it is to be younger. But the truth is that the older are the wiser you get! And, being wiser is so cool, you gain more confidence in your own skin and learn when to let go and when to invest time on certain things. I’m at the beginning of my 40’s now and it’s quickly becoming my favorite decade. I’m sure your 30’s will bring you nice things!
    Beautiful post!

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    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2015 at 09:27

      Lovely comment, thank you. It’s true, I am more confident now I am older x

  • Kaye
    10/07/2015 at 20:12

    Great advice! I’m Looking approaching my 30’s (how did that happen?) and agree with all of the above! #picnmix
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    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2015 at 09:26

      I know, it sneaks up on you a bit doesn’t it?!

  • Su
    11/07/2015 at 22:38

    Great lessons! I think you are wiser than many people I know who are/ were when they are at 30. Please take it as a compliment. That’s including myself! My 20s was a bit of a blurred. Wish I have written them all down so I can retrace what went wrong or right for me. I am towards my 40s now and is very much looking forward to getting old with my kids and love watching them grow as they develop. I even thought about holding their children one day too. Happy Birthday! xx #PicknMix
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    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2015 at 09:26

      What a lovely comment, thank you x

  • Mum's Hideout
    12/07/2015 at 16:46

    I enjoyed reading this as I’m just a couple of years older than you and these all resonate with me.
    I’m totally with you on the hangover issue!
    Now, more than 3 drinks will give me a headache the next day. Soooo not worth it when the baby doesn’t give a hoot about the fact you desperately need a lie in 🙂
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    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2015 at 09:26

      Haha yes exactly, it’s not worth the hangover and I’m such a lightweight these days! xx

  • A Cornish Mum
    16/07/2015 at 21:16

    I’m 32 now and the end of my 20’s and beginning of my 30’s have been some of the best years of my life 🙂 Possibly to do with finding ‘the one’ (makes pretending to be sick face) and love all that your 20’s taught you, very similar to mine 🙂

    Stevie xx Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix

    • Mummy in Training
      19/07/2015 at 21:27

      Aw how lovely <3 xx

  • Mummyandmonkeys
    16/07/2015 at 22:02

    My 20’s taught me very similar things. I can’t be bothered with drama anymore. Thanks for linking up to #PickNMix
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    • Mummy in Training
      19/07/2015 at 21:27

      Me too. I avoid drama like the plague! xx


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