My boy turned 3 last Tuesday but for a couple of months now I have started seeing the Threenager appear. I can honestly say, this is the hardest stage yet. When he was a newborn, I went through the list of possible things that could be wrong when he was crying. More than likely I would hit the jackpot at some point. Then the not so terrible twos happened, they were okay too. I could use the naughty corner or the ignore tactics and it would be okay. Now we are in this Threenager stage and oh my, I am not ashamed to say sometimes I have no clue what to do with him.
So how do you know you have a Threenager? Here are 5 distinctive personality traits we have experienced lately.
They suddenly develop an attitude – They don’t just scream like a frustrated 2 year old. Oh no, they actually tell you what they think. I was happily singing in the car the other day and got told to ‘shush’ by Little Man and that he didn’t like my singing. How rude! We have also heard ‘I don’t want to’ so often I could be the one doing the screaming.
They are a fussy-not-fussy eater – ‘What did Little Man have for dinner today’ I ask at nursery. I get told all sorts of culinary delights, I get told what a good eater he is, I get told how he cleared his plate. I take him home, what will he eat? Plain pasta and cheese sandwiches!! What even is this?! He obviously likes the food he is eating at nursery but at home he looks at me like I have given him playdoh to eat.
You dread having to tell them it is bedtime – My perfect bedtime routine has become tricky to say the least. Little Man now uses every distraction technique going to avoid bedtime including some very dramatic crying. He has also become very good at studying everything in great detail in his bedroom.
They are fiercely independent – I love that Little Man is independent, don’t get me wrong but it is twenty four seven with often no rhyme or reason. I once carried Little Man across the landing into his bedroom, he got so mad at me, he walked back to the spot we had started from and walked across to his bedroom himself. Apparently I am not worthy to make that journey with him!
They call your bluff – This is the trickiest one so far for me. I used to
be able to give Little Man one warning (‘Do you want to go in the corner?’) and it would do the trick. He would stop whatever it was he was doing. Now…now he says ‘yes Mummy’ and sits himself down. I mean, where do I go from there?!?
So there we go, a few Threenager traits. He has lots of amazing ones too and is turning into a lovely little boy but these five things do drive me mad. Anyone recognise any of these? Any advice would be greatly received!