Post-natal Anxiety & Me – When do I stop saying post-natal?

I’m not really one for labels. For example, I hate the labels put on parents…stay at home, working, etc. However, when I finally had a name for what I had been going through a couple of years ago it comforted me. Being able to say to myself that I had post-natal anxiety made me feel better. I didn’t feel like I was going mad anymore; other people had been through it too, it had a name. When you have gone months with no name for something and frightened by what it was being given a name for it, a label really helped me.

It took a long time for me to realise what it was.

Post-natal Anxiety (1)

I have few anxiety attacks these days I am happy to say but anxiety is and probably always will be part of me now. I think in some way or another it always was, it just came to the forefront after I had Little Man. Something I have been thinking about recently, when I say post-natal anxiety out loud; can I still call it that. Little Man is 3 years and 2 months now. He isn’t a baby. I wonder if I should stop calling it post-natal now and just call it anxiety. I know it doesn’t make a huge difference but I am an anxious person, a worrier. I worry that when I say I suffer from it that people look at my son and think that he isn’t a baby. I worry they wonder why I say post-natal.

What a silly worry. If you have ever suffered anxiety you will know that the even the silliest of worries can take up a large amount of your thinking time!

Will I still be saying it when Little Man is 21?

I don’t know. What I do know is that anxiety is part of me now and I’m totally okay with it because usually I can bat it away as quickly as it came.

I guess the post-natal part brings me comfort in one way. It was worth it. I have it because I had my boy. That makes it all worth it because I have Little Man and I would go through anxiety over and over again to have him.

What do you think?

If you want to read more about my journey with post-natal anxiety you can here.

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  1. December 9, 2015 / 11:46 am

    It makes sense to me to say post natal indefinitely if the anxiety came or the quality of it changed after having a child. No one says to someone suffering from PTSD but that trauma was like ten years ago, you should probably just call it stress mate. That being said I might be conscious of my son internalising the association when he’s older…but that may well be me overthinking it 🙂 Thanks again for sharing your experiences.
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    • December 13, 2015 / 7:31 pm

      Great way of looking at it. I would be worried about that too I think xx

  2. December 9, 2015 / 2:13 pm

    I completely agree with commenter Charlene on both points, if it was related to anything else the passage of time wouldn’t be commented on at all. I guess that is a reflection on our society and it’s attitude to creating children, it’s still very much suck it up and get on with it although posts like yours help enormously with breaking down stigmas and making people feel like it’s ok to suffer with post natal conditions. Thanks for sharing 🙂 #bestandworst
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  3. December 9, 2015 / 10:05 pm

    I bet it’s nice to be able to try and move forward a bit from it now you know what it was that was making you feel like you have. Sorry that sentence sounded a tad garbled! Hope you continue to move forward lovely and thanks for linking up to the #bestandworst x
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  4. December 13, 2015 / 7:30 pm

    I don’t think that it matters how old Sam is – you have had a child and that is all that matters. Just focus on yourself and managing it, as you are. I think you sound really positive and that you can move forward – despite knowing you may have a few setbacks along the way. Brave and honest post 🙂 Jess xx
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  5. December 13, 2015 / 9:08 pm

    I completely understand the way you rationalize…people with anxiety think themselves in circles about such things. I do it all the time too. Anxiety is hard enough to handle without having to justify something you can’t control to other people. I really don’t think you should worry about what people think regarding your son’s age vs your diagnosis, but i also know that’s easier said than done. If you’re feeling witty you can always paraphrase it..instead of “post-natal” you can call it “child-induced” anxiety! Then point to the source! I’m sure then no one would think on it any further 😉 #sundaystars

  6. December 14, 2015 / 12:09 am

    That’s a good question! I think it could probably apply indefinitely if it was pregnancy and having a baby that triggered it, as that would make it anxiety as a result of the post natal period, even if you are no longer in that period. I have always been prone to anxiety and panic attacks, but having babies did not make it any worse. #sundaystars
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  7. December 15, 2015 / 10:45 pm

    My mum always told me not to worry about tomorrow because the future is untold. This has always stayed with me and as a result, I’ve never been much of a worrier. Having said that, I do of course worry about my kids! That goes without saying and to be honest is part and parcel of being a parent. I hope you manage to overcome some of your anxiety – focus on enjoying yourself and having a good time ; )

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