You often hear people moan that all parents do when they get together is talk about their kids. I agree that sometimes there needs to be a no kid talk rule. We all need time off and we all need to talk about things that don’t include references to poo, the naughty corner and the battle to get our kid to eat something green. However, there is also a lot to be said for the chats about our kids.
I was chatting to a mummy friend one day last week. Little Lady had driven me mad all of the day before and that morning. She was fussy, wouldn’t take her feeds, fighting sleep, all the usual signs of….teething. Of course it was teething, she was a text book teething baby but it hadn’t even occurred to me. I was sleep deprived; I had been woken up twice with Little Man and his bad dreams the night before and then Little Lady had started her day at 4am. Because she is a premature baby I tend to worry more about what is wrong with her and often overlook the ‘normal’ baby things. I get confused as to what milestone should come at her corrected age and what should come at her actual age. I video chatted with my friend for half an hour while I was feeding Little Lady and straight away she pointed out that her little boy had done the same thing when he was teething. This my friends, is why kid chat is so important. It’s also why we love reading parent blogs and watching parent vlogs. I might write one myself but I read others too and they work, they help because they are real Mums and Dads and quite often there is no Instagram filter over the top of their daily struggles.
Being a parent is no walk in the park and sometimes you get so wrapped up in your child filled bubble that the obvious is unreachable. Parenting books are great and Google has it’s uses but the mummy who has done it already or is doing it now knows their stuff. They have already tried all the tricks in said books and more than likely have found a way that works. When Little Man was a few months old I even used one of my friends routines that she had used with her baby. It was tried and tested and it worked. So even if it didn’t fit completely with our lives it gave me a good starting point.
So next time you ban the kids chat remember it does have a place. Parents are a big wealth of knowledge and we need to share it! It might really help another parent who is tearing their hair out.