Finding the Words Again

I’ve dusted off the laptop. I’ve dug it out from behind the sofa and stared at a blank page for a while. You see, I forgot how to do it. When everything happened it was all I wanted to do; pour my heart out onto the screen. My head was so full of feelings and they needed to escape so I wrote.

What I have realised over the last couple of months that for the first 6 months after the twins were born I was in shock, a huge amount of shock. I wanted to shout it from the roof tops. I couldn’t handle people talking to me like I was ‘normal’. It must have been uncomfortable for some; I didn’t cry at them. I just very plainly said that I had had twins but one had passed away and the other was fighting for her life in an incubator. Then Little Lady came home and things eased a little bit but I was in the new baby bubble, you know the one I mean. And then I started to relax a bit with her too.

Then. BAM. The words stopped.

The shock dissipated a bit and I clammed up. I couldn’t talk about it. I wanted to be normal then. I didn’t want people to look at me too hard in case they could actually see my heart breaking. I didn’t want people to think I was weak or ungrateful for the kids that I did have with me. I couldn’t write about it, not just that, I couldn’t write about anything. Writing about every day stuff felt unimportant but writing about what was at the forefront of my mind felt wrong too.

But now we are in July; the month that will never feel like a normal month again. The month that will be forever more the month that made me a Mummy again, it will hold my Little Lady’s birthday and it will hold my heartbreak and the memories of my little angel. All of a sudden the words feel ready to come out. So, to those who have stuck with me, thank you. I am ready to share everything with you again and hopefully help a few a long the way. And if all else fails we can have a laugh at moments like when a dog tried to eat my Little Mans sandwich and I was a little bit scared! Time to bring the words back. Blog, I am back.

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  • Beth @ Twinderelmo
    14/07/2017 at 21:06

    Glad to see you back blogging xx

    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2017 at 21:31

      It’s good to be back lovely. Thank you xx

  • Amy @ The Smallest Of Things
    14/07/2017 at 21:08

    Rachel you are incredibly breve. I cannot imagine how you felt and I’m not going to insult you by pretending too. But your writing is beautiful and I’m so glad you’re back! 🙂 sending so much love and strength to you all this month ox

    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2017 at 21:32

      Oh thank you so much for such a lovely comment beaut. It’s good to be back xx

  • Hannah
    14/07/2017 at 21:22

    Ah so lovely to see you back. Big love to your gorgeous family x

    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2017 at 21:32

      Thank you so much lovely lady xx

  • Vicki
    14/07/2017 at 21:26

    Rachel you are amazing. So lovely to see you back xx

    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2017 at 21:33

      Thanks so much hun xx

  • Mrs H
    14/07/2017 at 21:32

    Oh Rachel, I’m so happy that you’re blogging again. You write beautifully. This month is going to be tough but we’re all here for you. Sending you so much love. Lucy xxxx
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    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2017 at 21:47

      Thank you. You ladies are awesome xxx

  • Sarah Howe
    14/07/2017 at 21:41

    Lovely to see you back again lovely. Lots of love and hope you can get through this time xx

    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2017 at 21:45

      Thank you so much lovely xx

  • Hannah Budding Smiles
    14/07/2017 at 21:46

    Rachel it’s great to have you back and I’ll be here reading everything that you have to say. Lots of love xxx

    • Mummy in Training
      14/07/2017 at 21:46

      Thank you so much hun xxzxxx

  • Stevie - A Cornish Mum
    15/07/2017 at 10:39

    Welcome back to the crazy old world of blogging beautiful xxx

  • Kim Carberry
    15/07/2017 at 20:40

    Welcome back! It is so nice to see you blogging again!
    Sending love and hugs x
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I’m Rachel, a 30 something Mum to 6 year old Little Man & 2 year old twin girls (one with us & one in the sky).

I’m an anxiety sufferer, list writer and secret chocolate eater.

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