Being a parent is a tough old job. There is no instruction manual that comes with that precious bundle that is thrust in your arms; you are just expected to know what to do. Once you have one stage sorted out, the next stage starts. It’s relentless, tough and the most rewarding thing you will ever do. I have a lot of Mum friends with children of lots of different ages and the one thing I have noticed that they all do, me included is give themselves a hard time. We never feel like we are doing quite enough. It’s a natural feeling I guess, you get one shot at parenting a child and the pressure is immense. But I read a quote the other day that really resonated with me and it was along the lines of if you are worrying about being a rubbish mum then you’re really not one. The fact that we give ourselves a hard time shows that we care. So as a bit of uplifting motivational Monday chat here is my message to all you Mums (and of course Dads too).
To the Mum who went to work and missed her kids assembly – you are doing it for them.
To the Mum who is at home feeling lonely – you are not alone.
To the Mum who got cross at their child this morning – we all do it.
To the Mum who suffers from anxiety and today it got the better of them – it’s okay, try again tomorrow.
To the Mum who never asks for help – ask today, you will feel better for it.
To the Mum who never feels like they have the balance right – you are doing the best you can.
To the Mum who didn’t sleep last night – keep going, it will get better.
To the Mum who felt judged when their child had a tantrum – forget about it, there are plenty of us that would have smiled at you.
To the Mum who couldn’t get out of bed today – don’t give yourself a hard time.
To the Mum who wants it all – There are ways that you can.
To the Mum who has empty arms – You are still a Mum.
To all Mums, whatever you are giving yourself a hard time about right at this second, whatever has bought on the mum guilt this morning just stop for a second. Think of all the good and all the things that you did okay! Pat yourself on the back when you remember their homework or when they actually eat a vegetable. The little wins are the wins that get us though. And most of all remember all those other Mums and tell them what a good job they are doing too. We all need each other.