We went out on Saturday night without the kids. This is something that happens only a few times a year. I am used to being tucked up in bed by 9pm after 5am starts and sometimes it can just feel like too much effort to start getting ready at 7pm. 7pm usually means PJ time not heels time. However once my second wind kicked in and my make up was on it was really nice to leave the kids sleeping soundly and get out. There was good food, good company and although admittedly I was flagging by 10pm I really enjoyed it.
As parents it is so easy to lose this side of our social lives to play dates and 9am coffee meet ups. Although I think this sort of social life is necessary for parents there is also a need to go out and be you for a while. It was nice to be able to actually enjoy the food I was eating, rather than persuading Little Man to eat his dinner or bouncing Little Lady on my knee whilst she makes a grab for my cutlery. It was nice to talk about the kids but talk about other stuff as well. And most importantly it was nice to be Rachel for a while.
I love being at home with the kids but at 5 years and 18 months they can push me to the brink at times and I actually think taking myself out of normal life for a few hours makes me a better Mum. I miss them when I’m out and can’t wait to get back to check on their sleeping faces. Being away from them for a while makes me appreciate them more too.
This all sounds very idyllic and dreamy but the reality is that a lot of parents just simply can’t do this. We are very lucky that we have grandparents close by for the babysitting duties but this isn’t the case for everyone. And let’s be honest parenting is hard and everyone deserves a break from it sometimes.
Not having people who you trust to have the kids close by doesn’t just affect the fact that you can’t have a night out every few months but also the more practical things too. What if the kids school shuts but you still have to work or if you work weekends?
Once upon a time you would see a handwritten ad in the newsagents window for a local teenager looking to earn a few quid to do a few hours babysitting but nowadays it isn’t that simple. You need people that you can trust implicitly and that is where a childcare agency can help. Childcare agencies like Sitters provide affordable trustworthy babysitters. It’s hard leaving your kids with someone you don’t know but by going through an agency it does come with peace of mind. They are childcare professionals that are experienced in their field and have of course gone through all the relevant security checks. It sounds good doesn’t it?
Babysitting has changed for the better and hopefully will give lots of parents the opportunity to be able to do their job or get out on that much needed evening out. It really is worth looking into.
This is a collaborative post.