I talk a lot on my blog about mental health but it is always about my own mental health or the mental health of adults. However I haven’t thought a lot about my childrens mental health. That changed when We Parent got in touch with me.
We Parent is an online toolkit for parents to support their childrens mental health. You may think this isn’t something you need to think about because your childs mental health is fine but what I have really begun to realise is it is less about that (unless there is a problem of course) and more about preparing them for adulthood and helping them to keep their mental health healthy! The co-founder of We Parent describes their aim as:
‘WeParent aims to give parents the tools they need to teach their kids to have positive mental health. When I became a parent I felt there was lots of help. But when my son turned 4 it really stopped. There are very few books or guidance for parenting kids aged 4-8. That’s why I teamed up with Dr Tustin to start WeParent.’
Every day our children are learning how to deal with their emotions, thoughts and feelings and sometimes that can feel a bit overwhelming for them but also for us as parents. Just because we are their parents doesn’t mean we have all the answers and We Parent can help with that.
They have so many resources on their site to help with whatever you need and whichever emotions you feel need focusing on for your child. They cover emotions, friendship & social skills, independence, having a positive sense of self and even sibling rivalry. Within these sections are numerous modules to work through.
I have been giving We Parent a go and working through the Managing Anger module with Little Man. Generally he isn’t an angry child but he has always struggled with that emotion and not knowing how to cope with it. The module was really easy to understand and guided me through each step with lots of support. I read the whole thing myself first and then started to use it with Little Man. There are specific activities to do with your children such as things to say to them when they are angry, open questions to ask and things that I could do too. The modules give you step by step strategies to use with full explanations as to why you are doing them.
One thing that really struck me when I was working through the module was the ease of it all, I didn’t feel like I was being full on with Little Man and he didn’t either. In fact I doubt he even realised what I was doing. I just changed my approach to the way I spoke to him, the questions I asked him and the responses I used to what he said. It can be easy to get frustrated yourself as a parent but using the steps really helped me to stay on track. I love that there was no fancy jargon and it was aimed for the every day child and parent.
By using the strategies I did feel that Little Man calmed down a lot quicker and I think that was down to the fact that I allowed him to talk his anger out rather than scream and shout.
We all want to do the best for our children and sometimes we just don’t have all the answers so using a tool like We Parent really can help us. To sum it all up, the other co-founder of We Parent says:
‘The years from 4-8 are the most important when it comes to a child’s emotional development. We really should focus all our efforts on our child’s developing emotions and sense of who they are at this age. This gives our children the best chance at living a life of positive mental health. Parenting takes time and effort, but if you are using strategies you know and trust, developed by experts you know your hard work will be rewarded with great results.’
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