What To Do When Somebody You Love Dies
As a society, we don’t like to talk about death. And we definitely don’t like about it when it concerns somebody that we love. But unless we live like hermits, there will come a time in all our lives when we have to face the inevitable: the death of somebody who we love.
The question is how to accept, manage, and cope with this sad tragedy of our biology. What should we do when we feel bereaved? And how can we move on in a healthy way and enjoy the rest of the time that we have left?
Honour Their Memory
Just because a person dies, doesn’t mean that they’re no longer valuable. What a person did in life can often have repercussions that last for many years, not just for you personally, but the world around them.
How do you honour them? You can do so by hosting a celebration of their life, continuing their work or simply donating to a charity they supported. All these small things can be a great way to continue to give worth to a person who has passed away.
Go Somewhere Different
Often your everyday environment reminds you of the person who passed away. Your home, local town, park or neighbourhood can all be sad reminders of what you’ve lost.
Because of this fact, many counsellors and professional therapists recommend that people change their environment, take a trip, or live somewhere else. Going somewhere new will remind you that you still have your own life to live and enjoy, even if it can’t be with the person you love.
Take Part In Ceremonies
There’s a reason undertakers do what they do. They provide people with the comfort of ceremonies that help them remember the person who is lost. Services can be religious or secular, depending on the beliefs of the person who died and their family and friends.
Try Something New
When it comes to grief, time is a healer. It’s hard to accept in the moment when you feel it, but inevitably the pain goes away, and you learn to cope with life without the person you love.
One of the best ways to move on is to try something new. Having something new in your life helps to refocus you on living your own life, rather than suffering in memories.
If possible, try to do something that involves physical activity. Movement helps to make you feel better, boost your health, and fight depression.
Avoid Destructive Behaviours
After a bereavement, it can be all too easy to engage in destructive behaviours. People often feel like they need a “pick-me-up” – something that will take the edge off their feelings. But turning to drink, drugs, sex or anything else can often be destructive in the long run.
If you’re struggling with substance abuse or addiction, then speak to a professional. Therapists can offer coping strategies that make it easier to avoid turning to substances of abuse and keep on a healthy path. The person who died would have wanted that.
This is a collaborative post.